the art (or science) of falling
Sunday, February 25, 2007
I just finished reading the February 2007 issue of Reader's Digest and interestingly, one of the cover features (of course, given that February is the 'Love' month) is titled --- How To Fall In Love: 12 Scientifically Proven Tactics to Find Your Perfect Partner.
Essentially, the article discusses the findings of multiple researches on interpersonal attraction: like seeks like, the effect of body language, the disproving of the cliche 'absence makes the heart grow fonder', and nine others you may want to take a note of.
It's funny in a way because the article defines the art of falling in love through science, through the results of extensive studies and tests. And those results are some things most people, me included, may not be aware of, but might be experiencing most of our lives. Some were as trivial as how having the same name as a person with an unpleasant reputation in history or your date having bad mood lessen your chances in finding true love.
But the part that had me drawn the most was the discussion on physical attraction: on how people tend to see people with dilated pupils as more attractive, how the term 'beer-goggles' actually made sense, or how inner beauty would not suffice as I quote: 'good-looking people are almost universally viewed as smarter, sexier and more successful than their homelier counterparts'. Harsh? Totally. But that's reality, baby. Such a superficial, superficial world.
In truth, sometimes one can't really choose who to fall in love with. With the scientific basis or without. I guess we're just 'programmed' that way. Like we're programmed to find someone with a major histocompatibility complex opposite to our own. Whether we like it or not.
Sometimes it's love at first sight. On other occasions, it's when you're constantly with someone that he/she eventually grows on you. There are even instances when someone you don't ever notice or even hate before suddenly stands out and you wake up the next day seeing that person in a very different light. And then that's it. You're stuck. That's where the dilemma comes in. When you have no choice but to feel that way about a person... and you fell in love alone.
I, myself am not an expert on the subject of L.O.V.E. Even with six years (cumulative) or more of 'experience' I don't think I or anyone will ever be qualified to be an expert. You're looking at a kid who still fumbles and does stupid things for people she cares about. Someone who gives sound advice to others but can't follow them herself. Yep, that's me.
Yeah, I know what you're thinking. With a lot of other people writing about more perceptive, stimulating topics; politics, art, music - here I am again blogging about love... and bitterness. Haha! Bloody sentimental me. I guess I REALLY can't write for a living. But at least I think I got your attention.
Excess: I have attached the article to this entry in my multiply account (you may have notice I have more pictures there too) so you can read it too if you want. After reading my RD copy, it came to me that I have received this article about two weeks ago, from a friend through email but I didn't get to read it. Or I might have read it but I don't remember reading it. That's how mentally draining my lifestyle is right now. I therefore conclude that I need a detox session. Haha!
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